Tee: gifted
Locket necklace: Front & Co.
Cuff: True Value Vintage
Skirt: Urban Outfitters
Girls, we need to get a handle on ourselves. It's time to take a page out of the queen of diva's books and get a little self R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Do you remember what that means? It means exactly the type of manifesto that I started this blog to be about. If you have no standards, no high expectations, then you will never get anything worth anything.
Many of my guy friends complain that girls are too emotional, too needy, too over thinking of things and it's true, we do. However I think there's a way for us to have our emotions, and control them, to use them in a way that gives us power and strength, instead of letting it weaken us and playing into men's hands. Any guy should feel lucky to have you and there is no reason for girls to put up with guy crap just to keep him. I'm talking about commitment phobes, crazy jealous psychos, super clingy types, and generally emotional fuckwits (I'm not swearing, just borrowing a term from Bridget Jones!). I recently watched Bridesmaids with a bunch of girl friends last week and one big moral lesson from the film that could definitely be applied to real life, was that we are the problem and we are the solution. If you're feeling sad, or hurt, or angry, or confused, then you are the only one who can fix your mess and that could mean not letting HIM mess you up!
So today, if you are feeling a bit weak and vulnerable, channel some Aretha and be the diva you are inside.
7 comments:
You tell it like it is, Mizz J! yes it's true as females we can be moody, emotional, bitchy etc etc but we are also strong, intuitive, and nurturing. That's what makes us who we are. And you're right, it's what we do with our power that defines us.
Loving your in that shot, and the sassy 'tude.
I like your manifesto--and I think it applies to every kind of relationship: friend, relative, BF, GF, co-worker, whatever. One-sided relationships are for doormats. Who wants to be a doormat? I've tried to teach my oldest brother that. He's the one I have not blogged about much--I called him "Fredo" the one time I did. He's a complete doormat for women. Married twice (divorced twice) to women who just wanted his stuff, not him. They both cleaned him out. Instead of learning his lesson he became more of a doormat. The 3rd time it was a live-in GF who moved out and took everything he had. Sad.
Everyone has days when they feel less than amazing, but (just for example) you shouldn't. Whether it's a shiny-mini day (BTW--Wow) or t-shirt and sweats day, you have too much to offer to let anyone (male or female) make you feel bad about yourself. In addition to your great advice, I would also tell women: Don't let their BS become your problem.
PS - Is that an actual pocket watch you're wearing as a necklace? I love that.
oh babe i loved this post. lately, i've been feeling so down and out of it that this really helped. i also wanted to thank you for your generous comment on my site it's really sweet of you and i can't thank you enough that someone's listening out there willing to lend an ear. you're wonderful and inspiring!
Great outfit! I love this post!
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HOT! OMG... i had to take a second look to make sure it was YOU! *thumbs up*
Black and White is really all someone needs in their closet to be a fashionista! LOVE THIS LOOK!
I have a pocketwatch necklace too..I just wore it in my outfit post, lol.
YOu are right..WE are in charge of our own attitudes-
Happy weekend.
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